The Best Is Yet To Be!

Robert Browning’s poem,  quoted in my previous blog,  is often misquoted as,   “Come along with me.  The best is yet to be.”  To me, it sounds like something Jesus might say, especially during holy week. I imagine as the disciples headed toward Jerusalem they were remembering the initial call of Jesus.  Echoing within themselves were the words,  “Come along with me.  The best is yet to be.”  When they arrived in Jerusalem to the triumphal entry of waving palm branches and shouts of hosanna, the disciples were inwardly saying to themselves, “Yes.  Here it is.  We have come this far with Jesus and now the best is happening.”  The teachings, the healings, the miracles were all leading up to these glorious moments when Jesus would be recognized as king and the disciples would live the easy life of the chosen elite.  Of course,  no one would ever imagine how the week would unfold.

Amidst predictions of death and suffering, the best is yet to be.  In the garden of Gethsemane, the best is yet to be.  With the a kiss of betrayal and the crows of a rooster, the best is yet to be.  On the cross at Golgotha, the best is yet to be.   In the darkness of the tomb, the best is yet to be.  Surely the disciples huddled in fear doubted the possibility that anything good could come from the crucifixion.  But yet we know that it is in the cross that the best is yet to be. Jesus died for our sins and conquered death 3 days later.  In life and in death, the best is yet to be.  This is the message of Easter.

And so it it for all of us. Because of Jesus we live knowing that the best is yet to be.  Whatever challenges we face in this life, whatever we accomplish or fail to do, heaven awaits us.  Happy Easter.  The best is yet to be!

The Best Is Yet To Be?

Sorry for the long pause.  No time to write but have been thinking a lot lately about this theme.  Robert Browning in his poetry puts it this way:

Grow old along with me!

The best is yet to be,

The last of life, for which the first was made:

Our times are in His hand

Who saith "A whole I planned,

Youth shows but half; trust God: see all, nor be afraid!"

I think there comes a point in everyone’s life when a person begins to wonder about the truth of this poem.  Is it possible as we age that “the best is yet to be”?  There is something about being over 50, dealing with transitions in life, and even seeing some young people soar to success at an early age that leaves me with some plaguing questions.  Have I peaked?  Is the best really still waiting out there for me or is it already behind me? 

I enjoy serving the church as a pastor, and yet with nearly 25 years of ordained ministry behind  me I realize that it could be that what I am doing right now is as good as it will be for my career?  I have no regrets about how God has led my life in serving the church and the community but I am still curious about the journey ahead.  It is good right now.  Could it get any better?

I love being a mother.  Yet with most of my children out of the house I wonder, are the high points of motherhood behind me?  If so, I look back and wish I had done better.  It all goes so fast.  The role of a mother changes through the years.  How do I know if I passed the peak?  What can I do in this phase of motherhood to make it the best?

In 26 years of marriage, my husband Kirk and I have gone from doing everything together in the first half of our marriage - working, serving the church, raising children, building a home - to having different interests and activities that consume most of our days separately.  Some say that everything goes down hill after the honeymoon.  I don’t agree but is there a peak somewhere else along the way?

In the midst of my wondering about growing old and when the best comes, I read a couple of weeks ago about Carol Masheter, the 65 year old woman who became the oldest woman in the world to climb the highest mountain on every continent.  Yesterday, I read an article about a 90 year old Florida woman who went skydiving for the first time and is ready to go again. Neither of those activities really appeal to me but they remind me that there are endless possibilities of exhilarating moments as we age if we choose to pursue them.


Vivian Bugbee is one of my inspirations.  To date, she has made over 300 full size quilts and over 300 baby quilts.  She didn't start quilting until she was 70.   One of my role models in life is Ann MacGregor, founder of Hospice of North Iowa in Mason City, IA.  She made the bold move of hiring me, an outsider to the organization,  as the first paid director of spiritual care many years ago.  I would have thought that her CEO hospice days were the peak of Ann's success but instead she has gone on in her retirement years to peak again in directing the organization that restored the Frank Lloyd Wright hotel.  Ann seems to have numerous high points in her life with potentially more to come.

Other examples come to mind as well.   Frank Lloyd Wright designed Fallingwater at age sixty-nine and the Guggenheim Museum at seventy-six and did what some consider his most productive work between the ages of eighty and ninety three.  Michelangelo was appointed chief architect of St Peter’s in Rome at age seventy-one and continued in that position until his death at eighty-nine.  Ray Kroc, Colonel Sanders, Grandma Moses, Emily Post, Ferdinand Zeppelin all of them didn’t start doing what they became famous for until they were in their late fifties or sixties.

Are you on the way to the high points in life?  Who knows?  All I know is that it is not  necessarily a matter of age, or position, or circumstances.   As Browning concludes the first stanza of his poem, “Our times are in His hand.  Who saith "A whole I planned.  Youth shows but half; trust God: see all, nor be afraid!"

Happy aging to you.  Seize the best in your life right now and enjoy.

Symbols and Deaths

To be honest, I don’t remember every funeral I officiated during my hospice years.  There were so many with often little more than a few hours of knowing the person or family.  However, I was contacted this week by a family that I do remember.  Around their mother’s death there were several moments that I have come to think of as “thin” places - times when the division between God’s actions and our vision, between our connections with loved ones in heaven and the loved ones on earth seems to be divided by only a sheer curtain. It was memorable to share those signs and symbols with them.  Not everyone is fortunate enough to have these reassuring “thin” moments, but they did.

Symbols and death, Transfiguration Sunday, life changes  - perhaps those were what my subconscious was working on when I woke up after a dream this morning.  I dreamt that I was burying a child - my infant child.  Further, I was upset that the funeral director was allowing the child to be buried in a basement.  Yes, I know about interpreting dreams and basements.  So I had to think... what does it all mean?  Well, several things - but here are two:

I am at the stage in life when my body is telling me that I won’t be having any more children.  Of course, that hasn’t been an issue since our last child was born but yet I think there is something symbolic for a woman when she knows that her body can no longer sustain life within it.  When I pray to Creator God, when I read in the psalms that we are known by God “in the mother’s womb,”  there is a level of resonance with those images because of pregnancy and childbirth.  That identity, one who can nurture new created life, is dying.  For some women, that reality comes much earlier in life.  For many, it is part of that middle age journey that is both physical but also very spiritual in nature.  

I also woke up thinking about our spiritual connections to people that have died.  I have told people in grief for years that after the loss of a loved one you don’t forget them you simply come to a point where you establish a different kind of relationship.  I now have greater confidence that it is true.  It doesn’t matter where my loved ones are buried, nor do I need what is left of their bodies or the physical things from my childhood home as much as I once did.  I sense a different kind of relationship,  a unique connectedness, one that is more spiritual in nature. My relationship is with the memories, the values, the parts of me that have been shaped by their influence - both in life and in death. These are the things I need to hang on to.   The rest can be buried.

According to my records, at the hospice funeral that I mentioned at the beginning, I read a poem by an unknown author.

Go bury thy sorrow,

the world hath its share,

Go bury it deeply

Go hide it with care

Go bury thy sorrow

let others be blest

Go give them the sunshine

and tell God the rest.

Epiphanies and Baptisms

People of God, do you promise to support (the baptized) and pray for them in their new life in Christ?   ( ELW pg. 228)

In this season of Epiphany and celebrating the Baptism of Jesus, I have had a series of events leading to reflection on my encounters with young people.   Last week at Bible study we talked about the promises made in baptism - the promise God makes to us, the promise parents make to help the child grow in Christian faith, and the promise the sponsors and congregation make to  nurture and support the newly baptized.  Before church on Sunday, the pastors and I commended a local congregation that had produced several seminary graduates in the last few years.  In the sermon on Sunday, the pastor told about his 8th grade Sunday School teacher that said that he would one day be a pastor and how that message was revealed in his life in spite of his original intentions.   After the service, I had a chance to sit on the floor in the fellowship hall and give comfort to a little girl and her stubbed toe until her mom arrived.  I felt inspired as I left church thinking about these moments and more.  I may be Pastor to Senior Adults, I may of an “over-the-hill” age, I may not have young children at home anymore,  but everyone of us has promised to nurture the young people that are in our church.  I have a few church kids,  of a wide variety of ages, that stay on my radar but I need to expand and be more intentional in what that means.

All these thoughts were going through my head as I proceeded into an intersection on my way home, halting half way through because the car ahead of me was stopped.  A group of 6 teenagers were slowly sauntering across the street.  The passenger in the car ahead rolled down the window and started shouting at them.  The occupants of the car seemed to think it was there responsibility to instruct this group on proper etiquette in street crossing.  Whether it was out of concern or anger, I will never know.  However,  I said to myself, “Why are you doing that?  This won’t help those teenagers.  It will only make them more angry.”  At which point one of the boys turned and yelled at the car, “Just get going, old man!”  The line-up of four cars in the intersection eventually proceeded on our separate ways, but I was left to ponder another event in my series of epiphanies.

Just what does it mean when I promise to support and pray for the children?  What kind of involvement ?  I see so many people just sitting back and doing nothing when young people are getting in trouble.   Instead of getting involved, it is easier for all of us to talk about the lack of parenting skills and the decline of morals in society.  So, how do I support teenagers in a way that is heard and received in 2012?  Or maybe it is not what I say, but how I demonstrate care, concern, and supportive presence.  Maybe I was getting it right for all ages when I was sitting on the floor in the fellowship hall with the stubbed toe - trying to see things from their perspective,  listening to the cries, and just providing a little bit of my own kind of comfort and reassurance.   It might work in the church, but what about on the way home?  Modeling a Christian life at church is one thing, but what about at home, what about on the streets?  It is a big challenge.

I’m not sure how this new challenge will be revealed in the year ahead, but I do know that every time I answer those promises of the congregation in the service of baptism, I will be thinking about what it truly means - and maybe you will, too.